I swapped some wool with http://kiwiyarns.wordpress.com/author/kiwiyarns/ and now planning to make some things that are just for ME!!
I have found photo's of me I guess taken 13 years ago.
We have lost a very special pet, Ned, the children's dog. When we split it worked out that out of our three dogs, I had Daz the older black lab and Mike had Ned and Smudge. Ned was very much his dog, wanting to spend time with Mike at work rather then days in a child filled noisy house hold. It is horrible to see your children break their hearts when a much loved pet dies. It was such a bitter sweet day as Jose also had the ordeal of taking her driving test unbeknown to us on that day too. She passed!!!!!
I have spent a stupid amount on some alpaca yarn, well, it is better then chocolate!!
BUT most of all something very special has happened, is going to happen.
I didn't blog about it as I had such mixed feelings, I don't know if Jose will ever understand why.
I had Jose when I was 21. All I have really know is being a Mum (I never had the high flying career, I wanted to be a home maker, a full time Mum, wife etc) I have done different jobs to earn a bit of pin money, then as the children grew up we ran a B & B, but always based on being at home for my children. Then four and a half years ago it changed but my children were always at the root of every decision I made. The home I chose was one I thought would be suitable for them at the time.
They have grown up so fast into young adults. Jasper has matured from a nightmare angry confused little boy into a strapping, headstrong, very focused young man, knows what path he wants to take, what he wants to study.
And as for my beautiful daughter........this is where it will become apparent for the muddled head and the new job....
Jose applied for a place at http://www.fashionretailacademy.ac.uk/
Not a mean feat, you might remember we went to London for her interview.
Well she got offered a place, an unconditional place. Pretty bloody amazing!!!!!
Now this is where I go gulp, she will, at 17 years of age, leave home to start off on her life's journey. Every thing she has dreamt of being, doing, is now no longer a dream, it is a possibility. It is going to be amazing. It will be the making of her.
But............... this is the bit I don't think she will understand.
I know that where I live, where I have brought up my children holds no real interest to a young lady starting off in the world of fashion retail. I know that the bright lights of London, New York are what captures this lady's heart, where as for her old Mum it is the peacefulness of the coast and the landscapes of the West County that grips mine with passion.
So it is the letting go, getting used to the fact that everything I have been, known is now starting it's next stage. I will always be there for them, I will always be their Mum. I will no longer see her everyday, I will worry (blimey it is bad enough since she has passed her test!!)
But life will just be different, for the first year busy as the accommodation is stupid money per week, thankfully her Dad and I are sharing the cost, hence the new job. Need to have a small nest egg also just in case something happens and she needs help (see something else to worry about!!)
But, my cottage will be peaceful, I'll have to keep it today as there will be no one else to blame!!
I guess it is called the start of the empty nest syndrome!!! Ha Ha!! it isn't that, I am quite looking forward to that, it is the feeling of loss that goes with your children growing up. You have to remember that due to being on my own it feels a bigger loss as there is no partner to take up that gap.
Mind you, I have Lily and Marmalade, who could want anything more!!!